Supporting the Inner Child VS SPLITTING

But along this path, many of my clients raise questions:
🟠 “Won’t this lead to a personality split?”
🟠 “Isn’t this dividing me inside?”
🟠 “I’m talking to myself — is that really normal?”

These doubts are completely natural, especially if a person has never looked at themselves as a complex and multi-layered internal system. That’s why in this video (or article), I want to dispel these fears, clarify what this approach is really about, and explain:

• Why talking to yourself does not lead to splitting, but rather helps to heal the inner rupture that already exists;
• How to recognize when there might truly be pathological splitting in the psyche — and how that feels different;
• Why the approach of supporting the inner child from the adult self is completely safe and deeply healing;
• And how to strengthen your inner wholeness through these practices — gently and effectively.

This is an important conversation — about trust in yourself, about the inner architecture of the psyche, and about how wholeness is not “loneliness without parts,” but a dance of relationships between them.

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Let’s unpack this:

1. This is not splitting — this is integration

When you speak to yourself from your adult part, it’s not a personality split, but a way to create dialogue between parts that already exist within you.

You are not creating a weak or strong part — they are already there:

• The anxious, wounded, child part has simply been unsupported.
• The adult part hasn’t had the space to come forward, because all your energy went into managing the wounded child — into survival.

Pathology is when the parts don’t know about each other.
But you are doing the opposite — you’re making contact.
And that is already a movement toward wholeness, not splitting.

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2. What is “splitting” — and why this is not about you

Pathological splitting is a situation where:

• parts are isolated and unaware of each other;
• a person acts like completely different “selves,” with no memory of what happened “in the other part”;
• there is no observing meta-position — no inner awareness that can watch the process from the outside.

You, on the other hand — are aware of your different states.
You talk about it, you reflect, you seek integration — this is not splitting.
This is inner work and growth.

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3. Psychotherapy always works with parts of the personality

IFS (Internal Family Systems), ego-state therapy, transactional analysis — all of them are based on the idea that we have many inner roles, states, and parts.

And working with them is not dangerous, but a path toward integration:

“All my parts have the right to exist. All my parts deserve to be heard. And all of them can be held by my inner adult.”

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4. How to handle this safely

To avoid feeling “I’m falling apart” or “splitting,” here’s what helps:

• Always complete the inner dialogue with a return to wholeness: “I am all of this. I have different parts, but I am one. And I hold all of this within me.”
• Visualize them together sometimes: the adult holding the child. This gives an image of inner unity.
• Use language that reinforces integration: “There is an anxious part within me, and there is also the adult part that supports it.”
• You can even say: “I’m not those parts separately. I’m the space where they can live together in peace.”

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5. If you’re asking me about it — you’re already in a resourceful state

The very fact that a client wonders about splitting, asks questions about it — already shows that they are in contact with reality, in self-awareness, in a process of integration.

Splitting doesn’t wonder: “Am I splitting?”
That’s a meta-position, a healthy observer at work.
Which means — your inner adult is already active and holding the process.