Sometimes my clients — mature, self-aware, accomplished women — suddenly admit:
“I miss that thrilling feeling.
Not even him — but how I felt.
I was alive, electric, flying.
And now… just life. Just me. Just day after day.”
It’s a brave confession. And a very familiar one.
Because falling in love isn’t just about another person.
It’s about us.
About how the brain lights up, the body vibrates, the soul opens.
It’s that moment when life becomes unbearably beautiful — goosebumps, heart racing, breath catching.
We’re not addicted to the person.
We’re addicted to the state.
WHAT DOES THE STATE OF BEING IN LOVE GIVE US?
- A flood of dopamine – we’re riding the wave of anticipation and hope.
- A rise in oxytocin – we feel connection, closeness, meaning.
- A surge of adrenaline – everything feels vivid, heightened.
- And above all – a sense of significance. We matter. We’re chosen. We feel truly alive.
This state is a rush of life energy.
And yes — it can feel like a drug.
BUT WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN IT’S GONE?
No relationship.
Or a stable, safe one — but without that “high”.
Or you’ve just come out of a painful attachment — and there’s nothing left of “that feeling”.
❗️The truth is: this isn’t emptiness.
This is space for something new.
If you don’t fill it with illusions or old dreams, you can build something real.
Just as intense. But more grounded.
HOW TO RECREATE THE FEELING OF BEING IN LOVE — WITHOUT A PERSON
- Creativity
Write. Paint. Build. Create.
Anything that makes you lose track of time and fall into flow.
This is one of the closest things to love.
When you’re in flow — you’re in touch with Life.
It loves you. And you — love it back. - Movement and the Body
A strong workout. A wild dance. Ecstatic yoga. Contact improvisation.
Anything that makes your body breathe, moan, vibrate.
It gives you the same hormonal cocktail as infatuation. - Risk and Stage
A new setting. A camera. A live talk.
Something scary — and then, the rush.
You’re on the edge again. You’re alive. - Deep spiritual practice
There are meditations that open the heart.
Mantras that make your head spin.
Moments of union with Soul, God, or Being — where you fall in love with the divine.
It’s a true inner ecstasy. - Service and Purpose
When you do something meaningful, and it matters not just to you — you tap into the energy of purpose.
You enter a state of love toward the world.
Not a one-time high — but a way of being.
A GUIDE TO INNER INFATUATION
- Find what excites you (in the best sense).
- Claim it: “This is mine. I’m allowed to be in awe.”
- Do it regularly. Not because you “should”, but because Life wants to shine through you.
- Anchor it in your senses: music, scent, images, movement, voice.
- Let each day be a chance to fall in love with Life again.
💬 INSTEAD OF A CONCLUSION
Love isn’t just about “the one”.
Sometimes love is a state of connection — with yourself, with Life, with the Flow.
You can fall in love with the sky, with a voice, with a calling.
You can feel that sweet thrill — in a dance, a word, a prayer.
You can be high on life. Without another person.
And if you want, I can help you find that path — back to inner infatuation.
Because you deserve to be in a state of love. Always.